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#25 Re: Names we call each other
November 17, 2023, 03:03:38 pm
Sean: may the force be with you versus long covid!

About wording etc, I'm struck that this guidance from Disability Rights UK recommends NOT using the term "people with disabilities" but instead "Disabled people".

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Using the term ‘Disabled people’ or ’Disabled person’ is therefore a political description of the shared, disabling experience that people with impairments face in society. It brings together a diverse group of people and helps to identify the causes of our discrimination and oppression, communicate shared experience and knowledge, and create social change.
https://www.disabilityrightsuk.org/social-model-disability-language

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#26 Re: Names we call each other
November 17, 2023, 05:18:26 pm
Sean: may the force be with you versus long covid!

About wording etc, I'm struck that this guidance from Disability Rights UK recommends NOT using the term "people with disabilities" but instead "Disabled people".

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Using the term ‘Disabled people’ or ’Disabled person’ is therefore a political description of the shared, disabling experience that people with impairments face in society. It brings together a diverse group of people and helps to identify the causes of our discrimination and oppression, communicate shared experience and knowledge, and create social change.
https://www.disabilityrightsuk.org/social-model-disability-language
I liked the wording on the parking spots in Dubai “People of determination “.

I’m a bit on the fence about this subject. Some “names” are clearly meant to be derogatory, but some are just neutral or customary.
I guess “Widower” grates and I have to tick the box fairly regularly. I describe myself as a widow. I can’t see the point in gendering it and widower makes me feel like I’m in a Jane Austin novel.
I brought that up, because I was shocked at the beginning of my widowhood, how many people think the term is synonymous with “helpless” or “pathetic”. The point being the above, mentioned by others, context, often exists more in peoples heads, than actuality and differs from head to head.
Intent, more than context, would seem the more pertinent factor.
I could make “aren’t you a ray of sunshine” either an expression of utter endearment or a fight starting insult, merely with intonation.
Main problem here is the forum post lacks the critical data, for determining intent, that intonation supplies. I bet the same comment, voiced in conversation, would have passed un-noticed, unless a patronising or dismissive tone was noted by the listener. 🤷🏻‍♂️

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#27 Re: Names we call each other
November 17, 2023, 05:49:29 pm
Sean: may the force be with you versus long covid!

About wording etc, I'm struck that this guidance from Disability Rights UK recommends NOT using the term "people with disabilities" but instead "Disabled people".

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Using the term ‘Disabled people’ or ’Disabled person’ is therefore a political description of the shared, disabling experience that people with impairments face in society. It brings together a diverse group of people and helps to identify the causes of our discrimination and oppression, communicate shared experience and knowledge, and create social change.
https://www.disabilityrightsuk.org/social-model-disability-language

Yes, though that political framework is more favoured in the UK than the US.

And even within that, when it comes to talking about groups of people with specific impairments, different groups can still have very different preferences for "person first" language or not. Some groups may be happy to identify as "disabled people", but then have a strong preference for "people with [specific condition]."

My fellow autistic people are notorious troublemakers in this respect, because many of us (me included) actively prefer being referred to as an "autistic person" and not a "person with autism".

Which is partly because of the long and negative history of treating autism as a disease a person has, which they could potentially be cured from to reveal the normal person supposedly trapped inside. Whereas most of us experience it more as an integral part of who we are.

N.B. I'm not going to be offended if someone calls me a person with autism, and in fact I probably won't even notice.

But I do have a preference, and I will get very annoyed by neurotypical people insisting that "person with autism" is the only "correct" language -- not least because it tells me that they're prioritizing using what they think are the "right words" over listening to the group of people they're talking about.

There's no one-size-fits-all correct answer, beyond trying to listen to the people involved and seeing what they prefer.

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#28 Re: Names we call each other
November 17, 2023, 08:19:52 pm
I guess my concern is that excessive language policing can give the appearance of treating people humanely without any of the substance.

Fervent agreement, from someone who is generally on the "language matters" side.

It's cheap and easy to have a little seminar to teach your staff whatever the current version of "correct" language is considered to be. It's often expensive and really hard work to provide your patients (or clients, or service users, or whatever you call them) with good-quality care.

And unfortunately, sometimes the former is used as a substitute for the latter. And you can swap the language around but still be treating people in a shoddy and paternalistic way.

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#29 Re: Names we call each other
November 17, 2023, 09:32:25 pm
People,

I know some guys with great empathy and very limited vocabulary. It is ridiculous to require that they should use words with subtle difference in meaning depending on your feelings. As long as a label not used exclusively in a derogatory way (gipsy, spic, etc...) it is fine to use.

I don’t find Gipsy derogatory.

I’m proud of my Roma heritage. Gran Glover (my Great Grandmother) was very much the Matriarch of the Glover clan until her death in the early ‘80s. She was a Pearson, though branded Didicai (as I would be) by her family when she married my Great Grandfather. She remained fiercely proud of her roots.
My late wife, being ethnic Romanian, was troubled marrying someone who was part Cigani (Wallachian Roma, in her and her family’s eyes), given the tensions between those two groups.  :kiss2:

So Cigani became less derogatory in her (and her parents) view.

(My dark/olive skin tone earned me the lovely nick name Gandhi or variously Spic, Wop or Dago at school (Cornwall was incredibly WHITE in those days, I wouldn’t get a second glance now).
A few years ago I was doing a CPD course at Plymouth Uni and after the obligatory “introduce yourself to the group” thing, when we broke for coffee, a young fella from Southampton, complimented me on my English, told me I was very well spoken and asked if I’d been educated in England… :slap:)

Anyway, it’s intent, not the words themselves. Call me Gipsy in the wrong tone and that sense of pride will manifest itself in a very different way.  :boxing:

Again, the written format does not make that intent obvious and the reader often applies their own biases, their own imagined intonation. I love the way my kids have adopted emoji’s to colour in that missing detail of online communication.

Which is my usual rambling way of saying what Slabs, MJR, JWI and Nail said far more concisely.
« Last Edit: November 17, 2023, 09:37:44 pm by Oldmanmatt »

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#30 Re: Names we call each other
November 17, 2023, 09:50:13 pm
Cheers Matt. Maybe you’ll like this lady’s take (auto translated subtitles if you jiggle the settings).


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#31 Re: Names we call each other
November 17, 2023, 10:53:45 pm
Cheers Matt. Maybe you’ll like this lady’s take (auto translated subtitles if you jiggle the settings).

Exactly.
Full disclosure though, my Great Grandmothers were Romani, Dutch, Danish and Maltese/Italian (all the males were English). Obviously, none of my Grandfathers were genetically related, but they must have shared a certain, uh, wanderlust and were all military men. I kinda think I’ve inherited that,
Quite proud of my mongrel status, you pure English types are genetically impoverished.  :tease:

Truthfully, hardly anyone is “pure” anything. I think we’re just a bit odd in being aware of our ancestry (My mother’s older sister has the family bible, that documents her father’s line ( the Stacy family, originally Ustacius (now the Ustaces and the Stacy’s) back to 1066 and a Genoese mercenary who came over with William. Her family kept marrying back into the Italian line, with the Stacy Matriarch being the Italian/Maltese Great Grandmother. Daughter of an Italian communist who fled to Malta when fascism rose in the 30’s).
 It’s a bit weird knowing this level of detail, but the Christmas period was fucking complicated for me as a kid, with the various branches holding massive gatherings, or the frequent piling into the car for another wedding/funeral etc and having all the stories repeated at me and my cousins, over and over. Shit, when I joined the Navy, my Maltese G.Grandmother came over especially to give me her blessing.

I wish more people were aware of their genetic diversity. It’s hard to be a racist/xénophobe under those circumstances. 🤷‍♂️

I’m just realising, writing this, that it’s the women in my ancestry that shaped who we all became, far more than the men and I know far less about my G.Grandfathers than I do their wives. Also, Gran Glover, wasn’t genetically a Glover, just as Gran Stacy, wasn’t actually a Stacy. 🤣

This might be one of my worst digressions ever. Sorry, as you were.

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#32 Re: Names we call each other
November 18, 2023, 08:10:50 am
I wish more people were aware of their genetic diversity. It’s hard to be a racist/xénophobe under those circumstances. 🤷‍♂️
Suella Braverman has full-on-multicultural heritage/marriage and yet is hardly the greatest champion of multicultural harmony (IMO)!

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#33 Re: Names we call each other
November 18, 2023, 09:09:03 am

I wish more people were aware of their genetic diversity. It’s hard to be a racist/xénophobe under those circumstances. 🤷‍♂️

I found this post interesting https://ewanbirney.com/2019/10/race-genetics-and-pseudoscience-an-explainer.html:
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If an alien, arriving on Earth with no knowledge of our social history, wished to categorise human ancestry purely on the basis of genetic data, they would find that any consistent scheme must include many distinct groups within Africa that are just as different from each other as Africans are to non-Africans. And they would find it difficult to identify any natural or obvious subdivision of people into groups which accurately partitions human genetic variation due to the constant migrations of people across the world.

Furthermore, there isn’t really a human ‘tree’. Although we use this arboreal metaphor to describe ancestry and evolutionary relationships, the true structure of human ancestry is far more convoluted. Human populations have continued to diverge, expand and interact throughout the last 100,000 years, resulting in a continuously branching and looping ancestral structure: the real history of Homo sapiens is more like an overgrown thicket than a stately branching tree.

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#34 Re: Names we call each other
November 18, 2023, 06:20:02 pm
I wish more people were aware of their genetic diversity. It’s hard to be a racist/xénophobe under those circumstances. 🤷‍♂️
Suella Braverman has full-on-multicultural heritage/marriage and yet is hardly the greatest champion of multicultural harmony (IMO)!

I don’t believe Braverman is aware of the location of her own arse, nor capable of finding it with two hands and a copy of Greys Anatomy.

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#35 Re: Names we call each other
November 19, 2023, 10:36:16 am
Interesting thread. As has been noted, behaviours are often or very often far more important and consequential than words. But words do do things - they are rarely only words (see J.L. Austin speech act theory, e.g. "How to do things with words").

One recent act of renaming that I'm interested in, because of my work, is the shift from slave and slaveowner to enslaved and enslaver. The former are passive, they just describe a state - those of being either a slave or a slaveowner. In particular, "slave" reduces the enslaved to that identity alone. It defines them completely. Enslaved and enslaver are active. To say someone is enslaved is not to reduce them one identity alone but is to describe an act that has been done to them. Likewise, enslaver describes an action, one that someone chose to undertake - true even for those who acquired slaves through inheritance: they actively chose to maintain the act of enslaving someone. Renaming these subjects completely reframes how we understand their condition and experience.

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#36 Re: Names we call each other
November 19, 2023, 11:50:54 am
It completely reframes one’s understanding… how exactly? The idea that people born into an unjust system have a choice over whether to continue to perpetrate that system or change/abolish it is surely not that new?

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#37 Re: Names we call each other
November 19, 2023, 06:54:47 pm
OK, maybe "completely" was a little hyperbolic (and apologies for the rash of italics) but I do think the change from passive to active voice is significant. It's not whether or not an idea is new, but how we talk about it. That's the point.

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#38 Re: Names we call each other
November 19, 2023, 07:42:51 pm
OK, maybe "completely" was a little hyperbolic (and apologies for the rash of italics) but I do think the change from passive to active voice is significant. It's not whether or not an idea is new, but how we talk about it. That's the point.

This reasoning, though sound for a given value, only applies to those who were and would be thoughtful in such matters.
That’s not as many people as some posters here might hope.
What ever form of name the thoughtful try to apply, the thoughtless will add a sneer as they use it.
In all probability, the more thoughtful the form, the deeper that sneer will be.
Quite a lot of people derive their own self worth from the diminishing of others.

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#39 Re: Names we call each other
November 19, 2023, 08:19:11 pm
This reasoning, though sound for a given value, only applies to those who were and would be thoughtful in such matters.
That’s not as many people as some posters here might hope.

Trust me, I'm under no illusions.

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#40 Re: Names we call each other
November 20, 2023, 08:43:00 am
Thread title of "the labels we give / attach to each other" might have been better. Name calling implies insults, which was what I was expecting. Interesting discussion though.

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#41 Re: Names we call each other
November 20, 2023, 08:45:30 am
Considering how we talk about slavery now and how that relates to present day racism etc I'm most struck by how we seem to have airbrushed out the extent to which white Northern Europeans were themselves captured as slaves throughout much of history including relatively recently. It is as though we want the narrative to be that white brits were always top dogs, nasty but always on top. In reality before the Romans invaded, we were capturing one another to sell to the Romans as slaves. Then Vikings captured people from UK en-mass to export as slaves as far afield as central Asia, then Barbary Pirates captured British people to export as slaves to North Africa. That overlapped with the trans-Atlantic slave trade. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barbary_pirates

I wonder whether telling history as it is might help to deflate white-supremacist nonsense.

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#42 Re: Names we call each other
November 20, 2023, 10:22:43 am
Was thinking similar after listening to Melvyn Bragg last week talking about the Barbary pirates. I imagine part of the reason the 'everyone enslaving everyone' narrative isn't talked about in the mainstream as much as the 'white Europeans enslaving Africans' is that white northern Europeans are the more successful and powerful group at this moment in history, relative to the other areas. Might not always be the case.

We also don't talk much about enslaved cheap labour in China producing goods appreciated in the west for their low cost. Recent notable example being forced labour in the processing of polysilicon used in solar panels (possibly including my own made in China 'Trina' panels). https://www.shu.ac.uk/helena-kennedy-centre-international-justice/research-and-projects/all-projects/forced-labour-lab

(company by company assessment in the linked report, my Trina panels assessed as 'very high' likelihood of exposure to forced labour).

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#43 Re: Names we call each other
November 20, 2023, 10:59:40 am
Considering how we talk about slavery now and how that relates to present day racism etc I'm most struck by how we seem to have airbrushed out the extent to which white Northern Europeans were themselves captured as slaves...

Of note, there's a movement (if that's the right word) to stop using the term "slave", and rather "enslaved person" - in keeping with the thread, calling someone a "slave" ties it to their person, rather than having something awful done to them.

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#44 Re: Names we call each other
November 20, 2023, 11:06:10 am
Considering how we talk about slavery now and how that relates to present day racism etc I'm most struck by how we seem to have airbrushed out the extent to which white Northern Europeans were themselves captured as slaves throughout much of history including relatively recently. It is as though we want the narrative to be that white brits were always top dogs, nasty but always on top. In reality before the Romans invaded, we were capturing one another to sell to the Romans as slaves. Then Vikings captured people from UK en-mass to export as slaves as far afield as central Asia, then Barbary Pirates captured British people to export as slaves to North Africa. That overlapped with the trans-Atlantic slave trade. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barbary_pirates

I wonder whether telling history as it is might help to deflate white-supremacist nonsense.

It is still a thing. Far too many young girls find themselves trafficked (I imagine there are boys, too) for a start.That we gloss over it by not referring to it as simply “slavery” is a good example of the use of language to “change” our perceptions. I’m irked by the term “Modern Slavery”, as if it’s more progressive and less serious, simply because it’s illegal and largely hidden.

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Posts crossed. Pete, there’s a high probability of someone/people, living in slavery, within a few miles of where you are sitting to read this.
Oh, and the US jail system? That looks pretty damn similar from a certain perspective..

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#45 Re: Names we call each other
November 20, 2023, 01:38:00 pm
Pete, there’s a high probability of someone/people, living in slavery, within a few miles of where you are sitting to read this.

Aware. Although they aren't involved in manufacturing our solar panels, clothing, consumer tech or car components. Using cheap coal-generated power. Such a thing as scale.

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#46 Re: Names we call each other
November 20, 2023, 01:52:34 pm
I think the intention of the use of the term "Modern Slavery" is to clarify that it's happening in the present (as many people tend to assume that "Slavery" is something that only occurred in the past). I think "Modern Slavery" is also supposed to be a broader definition that includes more subtle forms of effective enslavement such as tricking people in to inescapable debt, or the threat of deportation, or forced marriage. I think it shows the limitations of attempting to control meaning and narrative simply by adjusting terminology.

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#47 Re: Names we call each other
November 20, 2023, 05:11:37 pm
We don't just enslave by way of Chinese solar panels. UK agriculture via the LWA scheme makes use of workers who get tricked into debt to pay extortionate broker fees:
https://landworkersalliance.org.uk/lwa-report-digs-into-exploitation-of-migrant-workers-in-uk-horticulture/
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workers have to contend with the fact they will be spending the entirety of their time in the UK working off debt, essentially receiving less than nothing for their time and labour. Recuperating money, aiming to minimise losses rather than earning as promised: this is the best-case scenario for many workers [quote/]

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#48 Re: Names we call each other
December 11, 2023, 02:57:27 pm

I hate being referred to as a climber.  Genuinely. 


Why do you think that is? I'm inclined to agree, and I think that's from my own perception of the general climbing population, of which I feel I share minimal values with (and yet, I would probably fit into most other people's perception of what a climber is). I might tell people that I climb, but not that I am a climber.

I think that broadly, referring to people in a reductionist attitude (climber, patient, etc.) is not necessarily harmful in and of itself, but it is the changed perceptions that come with it. In clinical settings, making someone's social identity solely concentrated on their diagnosis will allow others to make disconnections with those people through an absence of shared values and not identifying with those groups of people. In a sense of, "I don't have this diagnosis, so we are different to each other".

For some reason I kept thinking about this comment, perhaps because it jarred;

the only thing i can say with any confidence, no self consciousness, is that I am a climber.

I can't be concerned with whether or not someone else's perception of a climber is correct. If not that then, what? What are you/ we..? And what is wrong with this label?

I do agree with the point there M1V0 about being lumped in; I ride a bicycle everyday to work or the wall because its cheap and quick, but Geraint Thomas is a cyclist. With cycling in London it does have a peculiar sensitivity because most people ride a bike to work because its cheap and quick, and the tube is minging etc. Not because they're hoping to arrive in Paris on the 23rd of July, or because they want to reclaim the streets and get on an environment high horse about 'motorists', ie; other people who are also merely trying to get to work. But you can easily over complicate things or be reluctant to take ownership of them because of this baggage, hence this thought was formed when I was young so its unencumbered:

Deep within me, it is the only thing. I am a rock climber, and these are my people.

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#49 Re: Names we call each other
December 11, 2023, 07:28:13 pm
I didn't ask you to be concerned with my perception of a climber. I just said I hate being referred to as one. Largely because, especially in more recent years, I often find I don't have that much in Common with a lot of "climbers".

Or were you replying to M1v0? I which case I'll shut up.

 

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