I was going to waffle on about my situation, but all the sentences I started seemed very boring and pretentious. Suffice to say:
Balancing out work, family and a life sustaining hobby is allways going to be rock hard. One thing I think has come up in the thread a few times is that if what you are doing overall is sustaining, then specific things like going out climbing can be reduced, or changed to suit, without losing the love of live and drive to do things. So the problem isn't really that you don't have time to climb, it is that you don't love what you are doing. I do love my job (rare, I know) so I get a lot of reward from that and can just about live with having a board (now a very small system board since we moved, oh, that I haven't had time to go on in the last 3 weeks...) and the very occasional trip to Font or something. Sometimes I long to get out and do something instead of dressing all the fucking dolls in their pajamas, again, but I have found it doesn't have to be a days climbing. It can be cycling with everybody to the beach, taking a kid for a walk in the rain or going for a run. I don't tend to do anything else except child care when the kids are awake on the weekend cos the missus is often so busy looking after them when I am at work or away etc.. But I do squeeze boards sessions in at naptime or do some pullups before bed etc.
I do miss having psyched climbing mates, but it kind of has allways been like that for me.. Social retard or something.
When we moved house the tv didn't work for ages and I was really suprised by how much time we had spent watching it. Hours every night. Rather than aiming to reduce drinking, a different approach would be to stop/reduce watching tv. How about chosing a specific hour tv to watch every night? You either find somethign more interesting to do or go to bed or, or anything..
Hope things are looking up by now. If not, go for a run. Endorphins are wonderfull things and have helped me through many a dark time.....
Oh, I did waffle on.