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Title: Black Dog Club
Post by: shark on January 20, 2021, 03:39:56 pm
Stemming from the Black Dog mental health thread Ive had chat with Lagerstarfish (Rob) and he’s up for leading a weekly zoom session for UKBers who having a rough time currently or ongoing.

Rob has prior experience of this and will post separately outlining his experience with mutual/peer support groups.

The BMC are kindly letting us use their Zoom account and the plan is to hold each session every Thursday @ 9pm starting tomorrow night.

We think a dozen or so regular participants is a good number to start with but hope for the group size to increase when we are used to the tech and the style of the group.

Because it is intended to be very interactive anonymity within the Group is not possible so it is vital that what is said in the sessions remains totally confidential. It’s ok to discuss outside the meeting what was learned, just not who said what. Meetings won’t be recorded.

Each meeting will start with all participants introducing themselves and discussing how their week has gone. Rob will then pick up on themes and issues to discuss with the Group - lockdown/Covid related issues will probably be most relevant as that is what we all have in common.

Expected time for each session is 90 minutes with a midway tea and pee break.

At the end I’ll message asking for feedback so we can improve the sessions going forward.

If you want to participate drop me a PM and I’ll send you an invitation link to the meeting.

For potential safeguarding purposes can you also send me your real name, postal address and phone number.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on January 20, 2021, 04:45:49 pm
Cheers Shark.

So, I have 16 years experience running different sorts of groups within substance misuse services, all of which have involved discussing varying levels of mental health problems. Some groups have been straightforward "teaching", but the most successful have always involved talking to each other, comparing experiences and sharing coping strategies - talking and listening to each other. I have no experience running groups via video link.

I left substance misuse services almost a year ago and am not running any other groups at the moment. I will be running this group as peer support - looking after each other. I am not a mental health professional, but have a lot of experience supporting people through mental health services as well as having my own experiences of poor mental health.

There is a lot of information available on mental health and wellbeing and trying to find the relevant stuff can be really hard. Hearing another individual explain what has worked for them is a great way of getting motivated to make changes, especially if they have described experiences similar to ones own.

In my experience, there is a difference between saying something in words and typing something. There is something about using our voices that conveys feelings and thoughts very differently to typing - tone of voice, incomplete sentences, gestures, general spontaneity - this is what I hope we will get from Black Dog Club. There is also a lot to be gained from the experience of being listened to.

There are obviously significant limits on what help can be provided through such a group - I'll keep a check on what we're doing and where we think we are going.

For those of you who haven't been part of a group like this, it will probably take a bit of getting into - talking can be hard to start with. Just introducing yourself is a perfectly fine start. You will get a feel for what else you want to say as the group goes on.

Structure wise - a check-in at the beginning works well. I will introduce myself and for the first session, I'll start by saying how my week has gone and what issues I've been up against. Then I'll select someone else to do the same.

While people are talking it is natural to want to show support or ask for clarification - I encourage this and we'll have to work out how best to do this. Every group is different in this regard - we will develop our own way of doing this, I'm sure. Questions and support can be typed and will (I think) be visible on the screen - Shark will be keeping an eye on this as I will be concentrating on what is being said. I guess hand signals for support will evolve as we go on.

After each person has checked in I may ask my own questions for clarification and will also ask for people's thoughts/responses - this will hopefully be brief, but I'm not ruling out the possibility that (as long as everyone is involved) we might enter into a bigger discussion of issues.

After everyone has checked in, I will point out a few common themes that I have noticed and propose one for discussion - we may cover more that one so that everyone is involved.

At the end of the meeting I'd like for everyone to say what they have coming up in the next week - good stuff and potentially bad or difficult - again people can offer support or idea on how to cope/deal with these things.

I'm used to groups of up to 25 people, but would feel out of my depth trying that many online for the first time. I anticipate that after people have got know the structure and I have got to know them, adding more numbers to the original group will be fairly easy.

I'd appreciate it if people didn't turn up pissed or drink alcohol on camera.

We'll discuss how we feel about people turning up late, but generally I don't have a problem with this as long as we don't spend too long repeating ourselves.

I'm sure there's loads I should be saying here, but I'm a bit short of time right now - I'll write more thoughts later


oh, please ask any questions you have about Black Dog Club here
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: tomtom on January 20, 2021, 05:34:43 pm
Great idea Rob - and thanks for facilitating Shark / BMC.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: Andy F on January 20, 2021, 05:40:23 pm
Fabulous idea everyone  :2thumbsup:
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on January 20, 2021, 05:45:09 pm
Something I just thought of - please don't anyone think that your difficulties are too minor or "not bad enough" to justify attending BDC. Peer support is particularly good for preventing problems getting worse. Also, the things that you have done to stop your problems getting really bad are probably just the things that other people need to hear about.

On the other side, whist the group won't be able to "cure" major mental health problems or be a substitute for treatment that you are on an enormous waiting list for, it could be just the right place to find out how other people cope or get by whilst suffering similar problems.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on January 20, 2021, 05:47:10 pm
Great idea Rob - and thanks for facilitating Shark / BMC.

not my idea

well, the details are mine, but it was Shark who approached me first
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: SA Chris on January 20, 2021, 05:48:57 pm
Something I just thought of - please don't anyone think that your difficulties are too minor or "not bad enough" to justify attending BDC.

I think it's fair to say the black dog comes to us all. Thanks for setting this up guys, great idea.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on January 20, 2021, 05:55:48 pm
I said about check-in being about how people are today and over the last week, but this is not a rigid timeframe. It's there to help people think about how they are.

As Shark said - Covid and lockdown (not being able to climb) related stuff will be relevant to us all, but discussion is not limited to this - plenty of us have problems that were already there and they may need explaining for context.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on January 20, 2021, 07:05:44 pm
other things I should say...

It's OK to turn up and not speak - it's better if you do, but if you need time to get used to it, that's fine. I will still keep you involved by asking you if you want to contribute and a shake of the head is an absolutely acceptable answer.

Humour is allowed - it can be very helpful to laugh at ourselves. Obviously be careful with humour - the safest use is with respect to your own situation, but even then it might not be received the right way by someone else. I've caused some monumental messes through inappropriate use of humour, but it has been worth it for the good laughs we've had in groups when it's gone right (usually does work out fine). I anticipate that video meeting will make this a whole lot harder to judge.

Swearing - if used appropriately is fine. If anyone has difficulty with hearing sailor talk, please tell us and I will be stricter on it. Sometimes swearing is the best way of explaining how you feel. We will not swear at each other.

We will disagree with each other at times - be nice, treat each other with respect. Usually this is stated as "disagree with the opinion not the person".

I will not tolerate hate speech. Its fine to admit to having beliefs and ideas that others may strongly disagree with, but chose your language and attitude carefully. I will help with this.

The level of confidentiality is important to get right and for everyone to feel comfortable with their understanding. Better to err on the side of privacy if in any doubt. This will be discussed in the group. It is understandable and not unusual for people to stay quiet or leave a group because they don't feel able to share due to confidentiality issues. Things that can be communicated outside the group include how you felt about it, any helpful techniques or tips you learned (but not who told you). It's fine to tell people about what you yourself said in the group.

Do not record the event.

Please think carefully what you disclose - we will be a bunch of fragile climbers with varying degrees of resilience; some things might be too difficult for some of us to hear. If you are unsure, ask via PM before the group. I'm thinking of things like details of self harm, abuse, violence, accidents. I will stop people if I think what they are saying will have a serious impact on those listening. If you find what you are hearing too difficult, put your hands over your ears and make sure I can see this on camera.

You don't have to wear a mask.

You don't have to ask to go to the toilet.

Please think about whether it is appropriate for your speakers to be switched on (who else can hear) or whether headphones might be better.

Eye contact is going to be tricky - cameras being in a different place to the video image of the person talking - we'll all do our best to deal with this oddness.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: kelvin on January 20, 2021, 09:08:25 pm
I wanted to say thanks and well done for doing something concrete.
Currently, my PTSD has reared it's head following last week, when my partner's 16 year old daughter trying commit suicide three times and on Friday she was admitted to a local mental health ward. It's been a week.
Anyways - it's proper good to hear you guys are helping people during what's a shit time for many.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: Oldmanmatt on January 20, 2021, 09:18:27 pm
I wanted to say thanks and well done for doing something concrete.
Currently, my PTSD has reared it's head following last week, when my partner's 16 year old daughter trying commit suicide three times and on Friday she was admitted to a local mental health ward. It's been a week.
Anyways - it's proper good to hear you guys are helping people during what's a shit time for many.

Shit.
Hope she’s good.
Hope you’re both good.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on January 20, 2021, 09:24:25 pm
I wanted to say thanks and well done for doing something concrete.
Currently, my PTSD has reared it's head following last week, when my partner's 16 year old daughter trying commit suicide three times and on Friday she was admitted to a local mental health ward. It's been a week.
Anyways - it's proper good to hear you guys are helping people during what's a shit time for many.

that's way worse than my week

you'd be welcome to come along tomorrow
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on January 20, 2021, 10:06:57 pm
I know it looks like I listed a lot of rules, but it will be a pretty informal chat between a bunch of climbers.

I would rather that people just say what they think/feel and leave me to moderate if required. I'm just aware that the group thing will be a bit of an unknown to many folk here, so want them to know what to expect from my input.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: kelvin on January 20, 2021, 10:11:24 pm

that's way worse than my week

you'd be welcome to come along tomorrow




Shit.
Hope she’s good.
Hope you’re both good.


She's safe. She's been prescribed Olanzapine alongside trebling her antidepressants, so I'm guessing the current thinking is that she might have schizophrenia or bipolar, which feels somewhat a relief, as I was concerned she might be BPD like my sister and niece.

And I'm okay. Lay awake last night thinking about some CBT I had years ago and today was much better. Heart rate is back to normalish after a day when I was expecting a flashback any moment.

Cheers for the offer tomorrow, it's really appreciated but I'm genuinely okay - depression has never figured in my life and the PTSD happens along rarely. But thank you.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: shark on January 21, 2021, 11:40:20 am
Not had any takers for this evenings session - appreciate it was a bit short notice. Hopefully there is some take up for next Thursday.

To reiterate what Rob said it is intended to be an informal sharing  of thoughts, ideas and experiences.

I hope we didn’t put anyone off with the rules but we felt it important to protect all concerned and be open about it from the outset.

Drop me or Rob a PM if you have any questions or concerns.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: shark on January 21, 2021, 01:38:38 pm
We've got a taker  ;D so the inaugural meeting of Black Dog Club takes place tonight.

PM me if you'd like to join in.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on January 21, 2021, 10:39:21 pm
Good first meeting.

Just a small group, but enough to show that the tech works.

I'm looking forward to next week.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: DAVETHOMAS90 on January 22, 2021, 02:24:28 am
Great idea Rob - and thanks for facilitating Shark / BMC.

not my idea

well, the details are mine, but it was Shark who approached me first

Very, very well done, both of you.
 :clap2:  :2thumbsup:

+1 both of course, which feels like a bit of an insult for such a fantastic effort.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: DAVETHOMAS90 on January 22, 2021, 02:43:33 am
Good first meeting.

Just a small group, but enough to show that the tech works.

I'm looking forward to next week.

Well done to everyone who participated.  :clap2:

Can I raise something? UKB can seem very "masculine" in it's catchment/appeal, and I hope other people don't find that too much of an obstacle or discouragement to taking part in and contributing to such a great project.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: slab_happy on January 22, 2021, 08:51:47 am
Can I raise something? UKB can seem very "masculine" in it's catchment/appeal, and I hope other people don't find that too much of an obstacle or discouragement to taking part in and contributing to such a great project.

Speaking as a rabid feminist: the "masculine" catchment might actually be a good thing? There's still a lot of stigma attached to talking about mental health stuff and seeking support for men (patriarchy hurts men too, etc.). And I know it can be isolating if you seek support and end up as the only guy in the room.

Having a group which tends to skew male might be a helpful and positive thing in terms of encouraging and creating a comfortable environment for people who might otherwise have a harder time reaching out.

(And there's not a shortage of mental health resources and support which skew female.)

Personally, I do badly in group settings (it's just not for me), so will not be joining, but I'm cheering from the sidelines because it seems like a fantastic idea.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: shark on January 27, 2021, 01:56:34 pm
A reminder that next zoom meeting is on Thursday at 9pm again. Message me for zoom link.

I’ve also posted an invite for members on the Black Dog Outdoors Facebook page
https://m.facebook.com/BlackDogOut/
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on January 29, 2021, 12:14:29 am
Another good meeting tonight

We're still a small group, so plenty of space for others to join in.

If anyone one is feeling unsure about coming along, feel free to bring a friend. I mean, not necessarily in the same room as you, but someone you know on the same zoom meeting. Supporting friends can join in as little or as much as they want (it's a good, easy chat).

Something we have found is that using a headset with headphones and a microphone works really well - don't worry if you don't have one, but it does make the group chat a bit easier.

I'm still not used to the lack of proper eye contact. Doesn't stop us listening properly though.

I'll have a think through common themes that we have discussed and post something to give people an idea of what has been happening and what to expect.

There was quite a bit of positive chat tonight.

As you might expect, the talk regularly drifts towards climbing and training. Felt like it was totally appropriate.

A bottle of beer did appear. Fortunately it was 0% alcohol and the group felt this was acceptable.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: andy_e on January 29, 2021, 03:26:12 pm
This is a fully brilliant idea, well done Rob and Simon, I hope it catches on and that it really provides a stable and beneficial post for those who are having a shit time.

It may even be nice for those who are not currently having a shit time to join too and lend an ear!

Can I raise something? UKB can seem very "masculine" in it's catchment/appeal, and I hope other people don't find that too much of an obstacle or discouragement to taking part in and contributing to such a great project.
Speaking as a rabid feminist: the "masculine" catchment might actually be a good thing? There's still a lot of stigma attached to talking about mental health stuff and seeking support for men (patriarchy hurts men too, etc.). And I know it can be isolating if you seek support and end up as the only guy in the room.

Yeah, as someone keen to champion diversity and point out sausage-fests, I actually agree that having a male-dominated environment could be beneficial. One way to erode toxic masculinity is to have the courage to show emotions, and normalise showing emotions, in amongst a group of men. A lot of men don't know how to or are afraid to ask for support. It's easy to say "just talk about it" but if society places a high, false value on being a manly man and manly men don't show emotions, then it can be a highly intimidating barrier.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: shark on February 04, 2021, 10:59:01 am
A reminder that this is happening again tonight. PM me if you’d like to join in
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on February 04, 2021, 10:58:43 pm
Thank you to those at the group tonight - we did pretty well, putting complicated feelings into words.

A good mix of climbing and other life related things to talk about with a broad spread of experiences.

I'm looking forward to next week.  :2thumbsup:

Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: shark on February 11, 2021, 11:27:20 am
A reminder that this is happening again tonight. PM me if you’d like to join in

Bump
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: shark on February 17, 2021, 08:20:42 pm
A reminder that this is happening again tonight. PM me if you’d like to join in

Bump

Bumpity bump. Drop me a PM if you’d like to join us tomorrow night
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on February 17, 2021, 09:39:46 pm
Thank you to those at the group tonight - we did pretty well, putting complicated feelings into words.

A good mix of climbing and other life related things to talk about with a broad spread of experiences.

I'm looking forward to next week.  :2thumbsup:

I should have reposted exactly this again after last week


good friendly vibe with room for more people

I'll see you tomorrow  :2thumbsup:

Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on February 25, 2021, 05:14:30 pm
A reminder that we meet at 9pm tonight.

Message Shark for a link/invite to the Zoom meeting.

I'm looking forward to seeing you all - plenty of room for more people.

 :2thumbsup:

Edited because I put the wrong time due to multitask error
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on March 02, 2021, 10:01:41 pm
The weather is improving and Covid restrictions might be getting less restrictive, but it's not all over for everyone.

Black Dog Club will be going ahead on Thursday. Come along for a chat, a moan, a rant, swapping coping strategies or celebrating your own survival.

With it being virtual, there's no unwanted hugs from strangers and nobody will be trying to get you to go to the pub afterwards to buy them drinks.

We'll probably end up chatting about climbing and there will be laughter.

If you have any questions about the meeting please message me.

You are all welcome to come along -  just listening is fine if you don't feel like talking in front of people you don't know yet.

See you on Thursday at 9pm



Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on March 02, 2021, 10:31:21 pm
A couple of people have messaged about the difficulties of working from home and the potential problems of continuing this. Lack of space at home, limited social contact with colleagues, dealing with kids (hopefully they will be back at school soon) and what will my employer expect in the future.

This is all appropriate stuff to bring to the group.

Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on March 11, 2021, 12:31:45 pm
Black Dog Club is on tonight.

Please message Shark for a zoom link.

See you later
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on March 11, 2021, 11:01:44 pm
A good meeting again tonight.

Nice to see you all.

Some serious chat and some great laughs. All excellent conversation.

Looking forward to next week.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on March 24, 2021, 07:59:24 pm
A reminder that it's BDC night tomorrow.
9pm as usual.
Message Shark for a zoom link.

I'm looking forward to seeing you all.

Plenty of room for more if anyone else wants to join in. It's okay to not talk if you just want to listen.

Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on March 25, 2021, 11:15:32 pm
good meeting again tonight - plenty of laughter mixed in with serious talking and listening

thanks everyone

Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: kelvin on March 26, 2021, 08:19:48 am
Thanks again for sorting this out, it's helped me hugely and I can't really express my thanks enough.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on March 26, 2021, 04:04:25 pm
Thanks again for sorting this out, it's helped me hugely and I can't really express my thanks enough.

Thanks for saying so. I've now got a nice warm feeling inside and a smile on my face.

It's a pleasure and a privilege to see people putting in the effort and improving their situation.

Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on April 08, 2021, 11:02:45 pm
Another excellent meeting of Black Dog Club.

Some big things to talk about as usual and plenty of laughs at the small things.

Thanks everyone.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on May 13, 2021, 11:35:36 pm
Black Dog Club is still going well.

I'm always surprised how easily the conversation flows despite being on zoom.

Nice to see some good results from people's hard work.

Great to see so many smiles.

Good effort everyone!
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: kelvin on May 14, 2021, 05:41:16 pm
A big thumbs up to everyone involved.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: Ross Barker on July 02, 2021, 08:28:17 am
First time on the BDC last night and I want to thank Rob and Simon for setting this up. It's incredibly valuable being able to chat freely and openly with this friendly bunch.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on July 03, 2021, 10:31:51 am
First time on the BDC last night and I want to thank Rob and Simon for setting this up. It's incredibly valuable being able to chat freely and openly with this friendly bunch.

It was good to see you Ross.

As you say, it's a good, friendly chat. It just seems to work.

Again, great contributions from everyone.

Thanks people  :2thumbsup:

Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on July 08, 2021, 10:32:21 pm
Well, we had our first proper technical issues at tonight's meeting and we managed to get through it.

links not behaving as expected and then UKB dm system stopped us from sending messages  :lol:

fortunately this was just another of modern life's hurdles for the people of Black Dog Club to laugh at and support each other through

thanks again everyone  :2thumbsup:
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on July 29, 2021, 11:11:51 pm
Good chat this evening

It's always nice to see new people

Thanks everyone
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on November 11, 2021, 09:15:41 pm
In case there is anyone I haven't been in touch with - tonight's meeting isn't going ahead.

I think this is the first time we've missed?

See you all next week
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: DAVETHOMAS90 on November 12, 2021, 01:30:25 am
Wow.

That's a massive achievement Lagers - the commitment and longevity.

+1 to everyone involved
 :great:
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: Johnny Brown on November 12, 2021, 10:40:12 am
Indeed, props, amazing effort.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: Falling Down on November 12, 2021, 12:07:11 pm
Amazing work Lagers and the BDC.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on November 12, 2021, 12:25:13 pm
Turns out that it's good to talk.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: kelvin on November 12, 2021, 01:15:33 pm
In case there is anyone I haven't been in touch with - tonight's meeting isn't going ahead.

I think this is the first time we've missed?

See you all next week

Really appreciate your efforts, it's made a world of difference for some of us on UKB  :boxing:
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: shark on December 23, 2021, 12:52:09 pm
Reminder that this is still going every Thursday at 9pm

If you’d like to join the group message me or Lagers for the zoom link
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on January 20, 2022, 11:31:09 pm
Good first meeting.

Just a small group, but enough to show that the tech works.

I'm looking forward to next week.

well, we're still going, a year on from this

that's a lot of talking and listening

we've had a few tears, plenty of anger and some good laughs

thanks everyone

see you next week  :2thumbsup:

Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: andy popp on January 21, 2022, 08:43:09 am
A wonderful effort - well done Lagers and all involved.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on March 24, 2022, 10:49:34 pm
Thanks for tonight everyone.

We talked about a load of bad stuff, but the good stuff really shone through.

Plenty of good climbing chat as well.

Nice one  :2thumbsup:
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: slab_happy on December 18, 2022, 05:20:19 pm
Hey, is this still going? Got a boulderer friend I might want to point in this direction.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: shark on December 18, 2022, 11:35:36 pm
Yes. Every Thursday from 9pm. Ask them to PM me if they are on here or WhatsApp me on 0777 3782763
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: slab_happy on December 19, 2022, 07:12:55 am
Thanks, will do!
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on January 27, 2023, 12:16:36 am
Good first meeting.

Just a small group, but enough to show that the tech works.

I'm looking forward to next week.

Two years on - we are still going strong

Thank you to everyone who has joined in and contributed

Several of us had more than the usual amount of important stuff to talk about this evening. It went smoothly and respectfully with a nice layer of climbers' humour and support to top it off. Nicely done everyone.

On a personal level, I am still giddy about getting a fantastic Christmas hamper of nice things to eat from the current Black Dog Club regulars. Thank you!

If anyone is thinking about joining in, please message me or Shark with any questions.

Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: James Malloch on January 27, 2023, 07:50:52 am
Good first meeting.

Just a small group, but enough to show that the tech works.

I'm looking forward to next week.

Two years on - we are still going strong

Thank you to everyone who has joined in and contributed

Several of us had more than the usual amount of important stuff to talk about this evening. It went smoothly and respectfully with a nice layer of climbers' humour and support to top it off. Nicely done everyone.

On a personal level, I am still giddy about getting a fantastic Christmas hamper of nice things to eat from the current Black Dog Club regulars. Thank you!

If anyone is thinking about joining in, please message me or Shark with any questions.

This sounds like such an important session for people. Hats off to you setting it up and keeping it going for so long  :strongbench:
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: MattW on January 27, 2023, 08:29:45 am
It was a 2022 of mixed decision making for me, but joining Black Dog Club certainly ranks high on the good decisions.

I just need to be able to stay up a bit later!

Thanks to all for doing this and listening.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: lagerstarfish on December 14, 2023, 12:34:38 pm
The lovely folk from Black Dog Club have sent me a load of nice things to eat again

This has made me feel all warm and happy

Thanks everyone!

see you all later tonight

(https://pbs.twimg.com/media/GBTiLpZXAAAOqwM?format=jpg&name=large)
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: SA Chris on December 14, 2023, 01:33:41 pm
Well done lsf, and good job for everyone gifting this to you.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: Fultonius on December 14, 2023, 02:44:47 pm
I had no idea this was still going - good work Rob and all involved.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: slab_happy on December 14, 2023, 03:36:03 pm
Fantastic work everyone on keeping it going!
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: Falling Down on December 15, 2023, 12:54:34 pm
Amazing Rob and BD Club.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: kelvin on December 17, 2023, 11:53:14 am
The lovely folk from Black Dog Club have sent me a load of nice things to eat again

This has made me feel all warm and happy

Thanks everyone!

see you all later tonight

(https://pbs.twimg.com/media/GBTiLpZXAAAOqwM?format=jpg&name=large)

Nice to see Rob - and well deserved. I personally benefited so much and will be eternally grateful.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: sherlock on April 13, 2024, 09:43:52 pm
https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://amp.theguardian.com/society/2024/apr/13/i-was-the-poster-girl-for-ocd-then-i-began-to-question-everything-id-been-told-about-mental-illness&ved=2ahUKEwiVwPnNhsCFAxV7XEEAHaccCEEQFnoECA8QAQ&usg=AOvVaw2lJ1MS-I_ArG--W1Tnpkr2
Thought this was a really interesting piece.
I've thought in the past that a heavy use of psychedelics might have led to my mental health issues in the past, I'll maybe have to re-think this after further investigation.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: stone on April 14, 2024, 08:24:45 am
She says she has been criticised for being polemical against a straw man mischaracterisation of the medical model of mental illness.

My feeling on reading that is that perhaps she should listen to that criticism and hold back when writing reams of polemic against a straw man mischaracterisation of the medical model of mental illness.

By the end of it, she seems to settle down to less ricocheting between extreme viewpoints -but I'm not sure it is responsible journalism to put the reader through so much straw man guff.

As a contrast, I thought the "is Psychiatry working" series was exemplary https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001h3y5/episodes/player

I'm happy to be corrected about any of this
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: Oldmanmatt on April 14, 2024, 08:36:05 am
https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://amp.theguardian.com/society/2024/apr/13/i-was-the-poster-girl-for-ocd-then-i-began-to-question-everything-id-been-told-about-mental-illness&ved=2ahUKEwiVwPnNhsCFAxV7XEEAHaccCEEQFnoECA8QAQ&usg=AOvVaw2lJ1MS-I_ArG--W1Tnpkr2
Thought this was a really interesting piece.
I've thought in the past that a heavy use of psychedelics might have led to my mental health issues in the past, I'll maybe have to re-think this after further investigation.
Not sure we read the same article…😉
Obviously it’s not “research” and is filtered through her perceptions, but it didn’t seem to contain anything surprising.
I got:
1: Mental health disorders are emergent properties from complex interactions of environment and biology.
2: Mental health disorders exist on a spectrum without clear boundaries (there is a point, though, on the visible light spectrum, where light is sufficiently Red for most observers to agree that it is Red, not Yellow, but Orange is still a thing).
3: Environment and Stressors change brain chemistry (and architecture? Brains rewire themselves don’t they?), but so do genetic factors and we don’t really know, yet, which is the chicken and which is the egg or even if that’s the right question.

Given the above, it seems to me, a perfectly “healthy” (genetically) brain could be pushed into A. N. Other mental health condition by purely environmental factors, or that a sufficiently genetically predisposed brain could slip into a similar condition with virtually no environmental stressors.

Assuming I haven’t entirely missed the point, it boils down to “it’s complicated”.

So, I’m left asking “what isn’t?”

You break a bone. Healing of the bone is only a small part of your recovery from the injury. There are complex emergent factors of that break (the unpredictable) and complicated injury management issues that cross many human “boundaries” from the physical (muscle atrophy, pain management, connective tissue damage, etc etc) through the psychological (fear of falling, loss of independence, etc etc) and even social/lifestyle stuff ( loss of earnings, career derailment, family/relationship stress, etc etc).

Simple break, less complex recovery management, complicated break, more complex recovery management.
No mental health condition will ever be a simple break, not least because of point 3 above, so symptom management will (probably) always trump treatment of the root cause, because finding the latter will likely remain a tough ask for the foreseeable.

So, I plan to keep on just managing me, not fixing me (gave up some time ago on “fix’).
Though me keeps causing me considerable hassle and puts incredible strain on relationships etc, parts of me are pretty useful and contribute to the “successful” side of me. Being a pedantic, nit picking, overthinker, with obsessive tendencies; makes me good at my job (I design and build ships) but leads my partner and family to contemplate hiring an Assassin or arranging an accident or plain kicking me out.
I’ve been off the SSRI’s for three years, but it took some significant lifestyle changes/management to achieve and actually, the cost at home has proved much greater than imagined, so I’m having behaviour management issues when I’m home. Contemplating resuming anti-depressants, but scared of losing my manic, creative, me (who is very useful, if annoying as fuck), since he is my big earner. Really, I wish I could find a way to keep the highs, but avoid the lows and learn when to shut the fuck up.
Or, in other words, it’s complicated.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: ToxicBilberry on April 14, 2024, 09:08:20 am
https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://amp.theguardian.com/society/2024/apr/13/i-was-the-poster-girl-for-ocd-then-i-began-to-question-everything-id-been-told-about-mental-illness&ved=2ahUKEwiVwPnNhsCFAxV7XEEAHaccCEEQFnoECA8QAQ&usg=AOvVaw2lJ1MS-I_ArG--W1Tnpkr2
Thought this was a really interesting piece.
I've thought in the past that a heavy use of psychedelics might have led to my mental health issues in the past, I'll maybe have to re-think this after further investigation.

It was interesting! The author seemed a bit hysterical. Psychedelics can be really rough and unpredictable for mental health. Particularly LSD which can ‘get in your head like a Nazi psychologist’. Psilocybin seems to have been used successfully in depression associated with terminal illness and other traumatic reactions. My impression of the author is that the article is a reflection of her inner chaos with a low level of genuine regard for the minds of others.
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: sherlock on April 14, 2024, 09:15:17 am
Of course it's complicated and we all have different perspectives but it'll give me something to consider in quieter moments...
Title: Re: Black Dog Club
Post by: stone on April 14, 2024, 06:01:05 pm
I’ve been off the SSRI’s for three years, but it took some significant lifestyle changes/management to achieve and actually, the cost at home has proved much greater than imagined, so I’m having behaviour management issues when I’m home. Contemplating resuming anti-depressants, but scared of losing my manic, creative, me (who is very useful, if annoying as fuck), since he is my big earner. Really, I wish I could find a way to keep the highs, but avoid the lows and learn when to shut the fuck up.
Oldmanmatt, thanks for sharing your perspectives and experience of this. I was struck that you have chosen to come off SSRIs because some aspects of the illness are actually positive for you. That's so interesting.

I'm conflicted because on the one hand I'm always eager to hear other people's experiences of dealing with their mental health and on the other hand I'm spooked that something I may say might inadvertently adversely influence how someone else decides to manage their own mental health. I guess so long as I'm upfront about being clueless, then that hopefully should guard against any such issue.

In my own case I was recommended to take olanzapine. I asked to try and recover without it, not because I found any positive aspect to my symptoms but simply because I had a (perhaps entirely unfounded) wariness of that medication. I was allowed to give it a go. I was told though that if I relapsed I wouldn't have a choice in the matter. It's 14 years on now and thankfully I haven't relapsed. I've no idea whether I took a foolhardy risk that I got away with or whether being assiduous in following a WRAP plan etc meant it was a reasonable choice. Anyway, like I said, I'm always interested in hearing other peoples experiences and the perspectives.
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