[slackline]

It definitely needs to be improved. 80% means 1 in 5 people aren't satisfied - thats quite a lot

"You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time” - John Lydgate/Abraham Lincoln

[SA Chris]

Is this straying from the point, and worth a thread of its own?

[fatkid2000]

The government is bring in more target shit - from April I'm suppose to ask every 60 year old that I see if they can get an erection - what aloud of shit.

If not, what happens. Do you have to prescribe him a copy of razzle or something? or it it ok to just 

Fuck knows - private prescription of Viagra I suppose. Women can take that as well.

[rich d]

What does viagra do for women?

[slackline]

What does viagra do for women?

Makes them randy. 

[SA Chris]

I love the word randy, it's so 70s.

[fatdoc]

In some birds it's gives em an awesome clit.. So they come loads, and loads, and loads.

Sorry to be direct, but more than 90% of illicit viagra sale is to women..

Fact.

( the drugs companies missed a trick there)

[fatkid2000]

 Well there's some gooDADvice from fatdoc - obviously speaking from direct experience there!

[fatdoc]

U should know. Private scripts an all

[Mike Tyson]

I find myself in a heart breaking situation. I am seperated from both the mothers of my kids, and accept that because of this, tricky scenarios would crop up. Both mothers have new partners and they are decent blokes. The mother of my eldest daughter is having a child with her new partner, so my daughter is very excited to be getting a new baby brother/sister as you may well imagine. She has been having trouble understanding why she has the same surname as me, but it is different to her mum's and her mum's new partner. And she has now decided she wants to call her mum's partner "Dad" as her new baby brother/sister will call him that. She says she will call me daddy and him dad, she has always called him by his name until now. What can I say? I'm at a loss really. She sees more of him than she does me, a fact I have to accept as I am no longer with her mother. But to call him dad??? Fair enough if I had buggered off and didn't have anything to do with her, but she stays with me every Friday and Saturday night, I see her as much as is possible. She is only 6 and half, so is this a stage she is going through or not? Ultimately she will do what she wants and I'll have to deal with it, but fuck me, I felt pushed out as it is but this is taking it to a new level.

[andy popp]

I've no personal experience to draw on but have seen others go through similar things. I know it might be feel like rejection, and can only begin to imagine how that feels, but I think its important to remember that at six she almost certainly doesn't see it as rejecting you so much as simply accepting him in, that loving him doesn't diminish her love for you, just as we don't love a second child less than the first. Young children undoubtedly often see things in much more straightforward ways than we, to her dad and daddy just make sense, they fit the reality she faces and imply no judgement of who is loved or valued more.

[andyd]

Sorry mate. That sounds a tough one to swallow. Life's made up of a lot of people who are very important to us.
Don't forget the whole thing must be really confusing to your daughter. She's not saying she doesn't want you or doesn't want to call you Dad. Kids also love to please, so she's possibly 'rewarding' (for the want of a better word) this guy with a title for the care he gives her.
She's not saying it to hurt you. I guess you're not able to stop it, so accept her decision and make her feel free and supported.
Chin up.

[SA Chris]

Tough one to deal handle. We create these complicated relationship scenarios and expect our kids to deal with it. Being in a similar situation when I was a kid (although at age 11 it's a bit easier to understand than at age 6) I can assure you it's not done out any malice, just their way of trying to figure out a complicated situation

[Mike Tyson]

I guess I just wanted the exclusive title of Dad/Daddy etc, although I have to accept that the new partners of my ex partners do my job effectively when the kids aren't with me. It just cuts very deep! I try my hardest to be a good dad to them but when time together is limited and the fact that they spend more time with their mothers and partners comes into play, reality bites hard.

Thanks for replies chaps.

[mrjonathanr]

Like the other posters I'd focus on the fact that her use of language isn't quitr the same as ours..she knows you're her dad and will love you for it. She's trying to work out the correct form of address with some complicated relationships -a tricky thing for an adult let alone little girl.
Feel for you though, sure things will work themselves out in time.

[Obi-Wan is lost...]

Easy to say but try not to worry about it too much, my folks split when I was three and neither of my two step dad's were ever 'Dad' even during some years when I rarely saw my dad, this is despite being close to them. Now a dad myself I get called all sorts including 'Uncle Daddy' especially when around my brothers. Think of Bart and Homer, Bart never calls Homer 'dad' despite a close relationship. Probably a Groening family reference. You will always be their Dad, despite what anyone else is called.

[Oldmanmatt]

I have 4 kids. Two are mine and two are my Fiancées'.
My two were 6 and 3 when their Mum died and they refer to my Fiancée as "Polly", and probably always will.
Polly's two were 2 1/2 and 6 months when their Dad died, now 6 and 4. The eldest calls me Matt when he's talking to me and Daddy when talking to "outsiders". The little one calls me Daddy when she wants something, Matt when we're having fun an Matthew when she's angry (often).

My point here is, they make up their own minds.

They know who we are, they know who loves them and cares for them and they reciprocate in their own way.

It's just a word.

Look for the smile and the cuddle, that's what really says "DADDY!"

[Mike Tyson]

All sound comments, as always a balanced reply from UKB folks when I lose my head. Currently sat with both my girls, educating them in the joys of "Trapdoor", they don't seem that impressed at the moment!

[tommytwotone]

Sorry - this feels like a massive lurch off topic so apologies Mike...


...so Mrs TTT and I are expecting TTT Junior and are trying to get our shit together in preparation.


The topic of buggies has reared its ugly head, and a lot of friends and family are saying Bugaboo is the road we should go down.


Now, I have zero intention of spending full price on a new one (hadn't realised you can spend over a grand on a bloody buggy...the combined cost of my first few cars doesn't add up to that!), but having been looking on eBay etc and am a bit foxed by the numerous models, add-ons etc.


Any badass Dad gangstas care to break this shit down for a homie?


A friend of a friend has Bugaboo Chameleon for sale, all the bells and whistles (rain cover, parasol, even a flight bag(!)) all for £500 but am mindful about chucking a load of fuck-alls at a load of shit we ain't gonna need.

[Snoops]

 Don't bother. Heavy, fills your boot up, OTT.
Really if you need an all terrain buggy, just get a baby sling.
We used a Maclaren Techno XT,bombproof, lasted 2 kids, seat drops flat for when they are babies, and can move up several angles when they get older. Also light, folds up flat at a press of a button and doesn't cost 500 fuck alls!
IMHO

[mrjonathanr]

Everyone likes to recommend their choice, it's a way of congtratulating themselves on their own fine judgment. As my partner got this, i take no credit.

You should give the city mini by babyjogger a serious consideration. ours was in good nick after 3 years when we sold it on so you shopuld be able to pick one up secondhand. If you buy new go to John Lewis as they have their own guarantees/ great customer service if there are problems.

It's awesome and folds up easily with one hand, something you'll appreciate when on your own holding junior with the other. Well-priced, lightweight, manoeuvrable. Excellent.

[andyd]

Can't....stand...buggy...talk...

[T_B]

We've got a bugaboo.. It's actually much lighter than most others that do what it does (ability to lie flat when baby is small, stick a car seat on it). I much prefer it to the bill and teds that we've borrowed since having two, which is really heavy and takes up most of the boot. The bugaboo is the only thing we've spent a lot on and that was second hand. It's v good off road in Font as u can push it big wheels first in sand.

[rich d]

We got a Quinny buzz, which was pretty good, lasted through our two, was passed onto a friend who's now on their third with it. My advice would be to definitely buy second hand, it'll look ditched pretty soon any way (and which ever one you go for just make sure it's got a decent rain cover)

[galpinos]

We used a Maclaren Techno XT,bombproof, lasted 2 kids, seat drops flat for when they are babies, and can move up several angles when they get older. Also light, folds up flat at a press of a button and doesn't cost 500 fuck alls!
IMHO

Everyone we know, including us, has a McLaren Techno XT. Does everything one might need of a buggy, cheap (for a buggy), light, easyily fits in the boot allowing space for loads of other stuff and is small enough to get into cafes when you need a coffee and a cake (this happens a lot when you have a baby). The downsides are that you can't stick a car seat on it, you have to transfer them (no biggie imo but seesm to be the end of the woprld to some people) and it's not great off-road. We have a three wheeler off-roader that was free form my sister in law but it's far to big to take into cafes/shops and the sun hood doesn't go low enough, que lots of sneezing. It is only used for Pram-fit/circuits and going to the Stokesly show.